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Self Defense Fundamentals Resources
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Class 1: Front Bear Hug
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
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Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
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Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
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In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.
Class 1: Ground Stand Ups
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
-
Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
-
Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
-
In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.
Strategy Session 1: Be A Non-Target
In SS1, we learn the 4 Pillars of Deterrence: Awareness, Positioning, Confidence, and Voice. Here are some cited and additional resources on the topic you might enjoy!
Confidence & Body Language
Studies show that psychopathic individuals (1% of population, 50% of violent crime) are highly accurate in judging victim vulnerability and do so simply by viewing how you walk. "Psychopathy and Victim Selection: The Use of Gait as a Cue to Vulnerability"
Ted Talk: "Why Body Language May Shape Who You Are" by Amy Cuddy
Voice/Yelling
A 10-Year Analysis of Attempted Abductions and Related Incidents, NCMEC: Children who screamed/made noise were 37.5% more likely to have adults notice and intervene compared to when children did not make noise. Adult intervention not only helped children get away or caused offenders to leave, but increased the likelihood of offenders’ arrests by 95.83%
Mindset (Be The Threat!)
Ted Talk: “The Paradox of Violence”, Tim Larkin
Podcast: “Self Defense Strategies” with Tim Larkin & Lewis Howes
Audio Book: “When Violence is the Answer” by Tim Larkin: (Being a hard target, mindset, self defense) Free on spotify premium
Media Recommendations
Netflix Show: 'The Serpent' Follows a true story of a man who targeted travelers for theft and murder. You can also read my takeaways on this blog.
Strategy Session 2: Lure Defense & Saying No
In SS2, we learn how to defend lures, say no and stay safe in the context of a stranger who get too close. Remember that a lure can be ANYTHING that has the aim of getting closer to you. The most prolific serial killers had very convincing lures:
ask you for help (ted bundy)
offer you help (this video)
invite you home (jeffery dahmer)
invite you to a photo shoot (Rodney Alcala)
Removing Opportunities For Crime
Paper: Opportunity Makes The Thief" (Crime Triangle & Removing Opportunities for Crime)
Lure Example Videos
Video Displayed: Gavin De Beckers "Gift of Fear" Masterclass: skip to 7:50 for a reenactment of a lure that was used in real life on several women.
Media Recommendations
Netflix Show: 'The Serpent' Follows a true story of a man who targeted travelers for theft and murder. You can also read my takeaways on this blog.
Strategy Session 3: Danger Signals (Spotting Weirdos) + Boundary Setting
In SS3, we learn how to spot common 'pre-incident indicators' that precede violence or tell us that we should be careful and change the situation. Some of these indicators include:
overly nice and charming
not accepting no
inappropriate behavior
putdowns
isolation
GUT INSTINCT: Gavin de Becker shares the messengers of intuition in his Gift of Fear Masterclass (video displayed)
We also practice setting boundaries with PEOPLE WE KNOW who are making us uncomfortable.
Media Recommendations
Netflix Show: 'The Serpent' Follows a true story of a man who targeted travelers for theft and murder. You can also read my takeaways on this blog.
Strategy Session 4: Intimate Partner Violence
In SS4, we learn how to spot common 'pre-incident indicators' that precede spousal homicide, the #1 source of female homicide.
Educational Resources
Research Paper: Multiple Victim Homicides, Mass Murders, and HomicideSuicides as Domestic Violence Events.
US Department of Justice: Female Victims of Violence: https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/fvv.pdf
"The Gift of Fear" Book by Gavin de Becker (and free masterclass: https://giftoffear.com/)
Media Recommendations
Netflix Show: 'MAID' is an amazing series following a young mom's journey through domestic violence and the women's shelter system.
Women's Shelters & Help
Find help and create a safety plan: https://www.thehotline.org/
Check Shelters in Your Area: https://www.domesticshelters.org/
Family Violence Program
https://www.hhs.texas.gov/services/safety/family-violence-program
https://www.hhs.texas.gov/services/safety/family-violence-program/family-violence-program-resources
The Family Place (North Texas)
*I volunteered with them about 18-20 years ago, but they have solid information for women, and they can help women and their children get away.
Denton
Giving Grace
https://www.givinggrace.org/blog/together-we-serve
Arms of Hope
Denton County Friends of the Family
Dallas Area
Genesis Women’s Shelter
https://www.genesisshelter.org/
Union Gospel Mission – Dallas
Viola’s House
Fort-Worth Area
Safe Haven
Open Doors for Women in Need
Union Gospel Mission
Family Crisis Center of Johnson County
Class 7+8: Abduction Defense (Arm Drag, Get To Guard, Up Kicks)
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
-
Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
-
Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
-
In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.
Class 15+16: Hair Grab + Hair Drag Defense
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
-
Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
-
Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
-
In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.
Class 13+14: Bear Hug Defense (UnderArm + Overarm)
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
-
Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
-
Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
-
In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.
Class 3: Standing Choke Defense
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
-
Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
-
Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
-
In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.
Class 1: Front Bear Hug
"The Frame" technique teaches you how to defend against a front bear hug. You can see this exact attack, and the amazing woman who defended it in this video!
Things to Notice From The Attack:
-
Nashali's initial use of pushes to keep him off
-
Circling around an obstacle (gym bench) to keep him away + run to the exit
-
The Approach: notice how close he gets to Nashali before she acts (first control the distance!)
-
The first bear hug: notice the opening for the frame + elbows (she tries to punch but punches are not effective at this close distance)
-
The takedown: notice the opening to keep the frame on the head or get legs in front + up kick (Class 6 + 13)
Other observations:
-
Nashali kept her phone in hand the whole fight! Drop your phone, fight with both hands
-
In one article Nashali discussed how difficult it was to use her fingers to dial 911 through the adrenaline.
-
In this full length security footage video, you can see that the attacker stood at the end of the gym just watching Nashali and looking side to side - looking very weird and suspicious - for 2 minutes. Major danger signal/red flag!
Nashali did an incredible job defending herself – with zero training no less! Her advice: "Never Give Up". Even an untrained woman, with confidence and fighting spirit, can defend herself against a man – indeed it happens everyday! To read my blog on the importance of fighting spirit, click here.